If at first you don’t succeed.. Try it again.
How to Succeed after you’ve Failed
If you are anything like me you’ve probably tried things before and failed. This happens many times throughout our lives. Sometimes it’s not just trying it once but multiple times over and over again failing time after time. Maybe we weren’t good in school at a particular subject. We may have failed at it many times. I wasn’t very good at English and didn’t like reading. The funny thing is that now I read for at least 1 hr. a day and write as well even though I used to hate these activities in school.
I think the reason that we come to not like some things is because we failed early and after those couple failures we were so discouraged that we started to dislike the action we were taking. If we don’t have the confidence that we are good at it then we tend not to want to do it anymore. Being given a bad grade is a great example of this.
Another reason that we come to not like things is because of the pressure to do well. We get pressure from ourselves, our parents, spouses and others that surround us. When I was learning to drive standard I just couldn’t get it. Having the pressure of my wife next to me as well at traffic behind me made me nervous and it was just frustrating. I did however eventually figure it out and not it’s just natural to me and there is no pressure. I removed the pressure by going out by driving by myself and went on a road or an empty parking lot that I knew there wouldn’t’ be any traffic. This made it so much easier. Removing the pressure for reading and writing also worked. I’m not forced to memorize or remember what I am reading makes it much easier to relax and enjoy reading something educational. The fact that my writing won’t be graded because it’s just for my blog makes it super simple too. I just write like I’m talking to someone.
If you don’t succeed the first time.. tweak it. There are many variations for activities, subjects or hobbies that we may not like the first one we tried and then we gave up. I didn’t like reading but it was probably because I didn’t like reading about the subject or I found it boring. You may have tried a workout the first time and didn’t like it. I tried insanity and I almost passed out at the end. I decided to try out T25 because it looked like it would be easier for me and not as long and it was perfect for me. Just because you don’t like one version of it doesn’t mean you won’t like another.